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My wife suggested a ‘Threesome’
It came as a massive surprise to me when my wife Maggie suggested a ‘threesome.” “Come on,” she said “ You might like it. You might find it helpful.” It was disconcerting because the third party in this conversation was also called Maggie. A threesome with two Maggies I really wasn’t sure I wanted to…
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Do as I say – not as I do
As a life coach I talk a lot with my clients about tiny changes in perspective. For me coaching isn’t about my clients having massive ‘light bulb’ moments. More it is about tiny changes in the way they look themselves and the world they live in. Tiny changes that can have a massive impact. I…
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The dilemma of peeing and pooing
Warning: Not for those of a nervous disposition or easily offended. The very helpful booklet produced by Prostate Cancer UK says this on P.31 of it’s booklet ‘Living with hormone therapy.’ “…it may make your penis shorter in size. If you also put on weight because of your hormone therapy you may also find it…
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He was right
The seven heads nodded vigorously in agreement. They couldn’t be more in agreement. They had just read a statement that summed them all up perfectly. “Fatigue: A form of extreme tiredness that is totally disproportionate to the amount of effort previously expended.” That’s us was the collective response. If only we could get friends and…
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Here’s a different take on things
I thought I might share some thoughts on a different take on my cancer journey. One that we probably give little thought to. That’s the effect it has on our partners. When you are ‘sick’ the focus tends to be entirely on you. You are the one in the spotlight. You are the one everyone…
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There’s a price to pay
I’ve had some fantastic news about my cancer treatment – it appears to be working. It was such a relief when I had the call from my consultant to update me on my latest tests. They show that the treatment I am receiving is working. So we will keep going with the same medication regime.…
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It’s not brave
My cancer journey has just been featured on the website of the Maggie’s cancer charity. In it I spoke about how useful and supportive I had found the men’s support group who meet every Friday morning to chat over coffee and biscuits. At the latest meeting many of the guys commented on my story and…
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Don’t worry – I’ll protect you
I’ve been charting the ups and downs of my cancer journey over the past six months and I’ve recently had a really bad day. So bad that I spent most of it in bed. I had sever chest pains and back pains , feeling sick and with a burning in my stomach. I was pretty…
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Splendid isolation
Since my cancer diagnosis my wife Maggie and I have discussed everything. My fears, my emotions, my disbelief. She has hugged me when she knows I need it, dries my eyes when I cry and is just there as a massive support. Despite this I have felt incredibly alone and isolated. That is – until…
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She wasn’t joking
When the cancer consultant said to me that the pills I was being prescribed for my prostate cancer ‘were not smarties,’ – she wasn’t joking. My earlier initial consultation had apparently been to assess my fitness for whatever treatment they were thinking of giving me. For my age I was told I was a pretty…